Parenting Is The Ultimate Juggling Act
Anyone who has multiple children knows just how hard it is to spend time with each of them to make them feel wanted and loved. With my crazy work schedule and blogging on top of it, spending time with all four of my kids is often a challenge. So even though there never seems to be enough time, I try to make every effort possible to spend as much time with each of my kids as I can. This blog is a family endeavor, and 99% of the time at least one of my kids is with me when I am shooting content or even writing blog posts. But of course I don’t want that to be the only time I spend with them. Today’s post is all about making time for each child so that they know they are special. It is so important to do this, so that they have a good sense of self worth and self esteem. I don’t want any of my kids in an unhealthy relationship when they are older, and that starts by having a healthy relationship with me as well as their dad.
Make Sure You are Truly Listening
Our kids have busy days just like we do, and they always want to tell us about their day. When your child talks to you, make eye contact with them. Get down to their level and listen, so that they know they are heard. It’s too easy to be staring down at your phone when your child is talking. Put down the phone and sit down with them to hear about their day. If you are in the middle of something, finish your task and then let go of it. Ask questions of them to show them you are engaged. When you do this they know they can count on you in the future too, when problems can get really serious.
Spend Quality Time With Them Every Day
Now this is one thing I struggle with all the time. I get home from work and there is just enough time to make dinner, clean the kitchen, and get the kids to bed. Even if it is just five minutes with each child, make it quality time. If they are younger take the time to read to them (or vice versa). If they are older, cook together and make it fun. I fold laundry with my girls and we have fun doing it. On the weekends I have a lot more time, and when I do I try to take turns with each child shopping alone with them (even if it is just the grocery store). My kids look forward to their “mommy day” and I make sure each one gets it at least once a month.
One of the favorite things my girls love to do with me is wear matching outfits! What a great way to make your daughter feel special by wearing a mommy and me look. I love this classic nautical striped Macinac dress by Duffield Lane. This dress comes in an adorable girls version too. This dress is perfect for any casual summer day, and is especially perfect for a summer stroll on a boat dock.
Create Special Traditions
Special traditions can be as simple as chocolate chip pancakes on a Saturday morning. Make it a point to plant flowers together in the spring, a beach trip in the summer, or make cookies together in the fall/winter. My girls favorite tradition is a mani-pedi day together (and we need to do it again soon!). My boys love to head to the local Chuck E Cheese for a day of video games and pizza.
Keep in Contact
It’s the little messages that the kids truly remember. One of my favorite things to do is “lunchbox love”. Put a little note in their lunchbox every day to remind them how special they are. Now that my daughter is older, she loves sending me emails. It is so much fun writing back and forth in the middle of the day (and a welcome relief too!).
Find Out What Your Child Likes
Each of my children have their own special interests, and I try to cultivate and encourage them to have fun with their hobbies. My girls love to ice skate, and I make sure to go to their competitions, and volunteer where I can at their events. My son love to play Splatoon, and I make it a point to play with him on a Saturday evening. We make slime together, put on makeup together, and we just try to have fun together wherever and whenever we can!
You Can Never Give Too Many Hugs
Saying “I love you” and giving a hug go hand in hand. Don’t let a day go by without telling your child you love them. I give hugs in the morning, when I get home from work, and definitely at the end of the day. Even a simple gesture such as holding their hand when you are walking down the street can go a long way to making your kid feel loved and appreciated.
I hope today’s post is helpful! If anything, it is just a little reminder about the things we all need to do in life. Even if you don’t have kids, these tips apply to any healthy relationship!
As always, thanks for stopping by!
xo | April*This post contains affiliate links.
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